About Tendril

I'm 57. I've spent most of my career in tech, mostly the only woman in the room, and I got comfortable there. What I never got comfortable with was the other stuff like perimenopause. Cause that happened and I went into it pretty blind, the way a lot of us did.

I'm a builder. I've shipped software, sold a company, written cookbooks. When something I want doesn't exist, I make it. And the thing I couldn't find was simple: a place to talk to other women — honestly, without performing, without worrying if a stranger will give me crap for asking a basic question — about the parts of getting older that nobody hands you a manual for.

Not just menopause. Skincare I should've figured out decades ago. Whether the pain in my hip is normal. How do I cope with my hair. What to do about aging parents, adult kids, marriages that shift at 50. And also just good books, bad days, and things that make me pee a little when I laugh.

The big platforms aren't built for this. They're built to keep you scrolling and to reward the loudest, meanest voice in the thread. Reddit is fine if I want to find out AITAH. Facebook is well, Facebook. Threads and Bluesky are better... but still too exposed for me. I don't need everyone reading about my hot-flashes. Where's the space where a woman my age can just say a real thing.

So I'm building one. Tendril will be a small, private-feeling, free-to-join social space for women — no algorithm deciding what you see, no trolls, no bots, no mining your data.